Every day of the week, children are a joy to be around. They have the power to brighten even the most dreary days with their ability to make you laugh and grin.
Children’s joyful laughter and grins are irresistible. However, the day-to-day challenges of parenthood can depress a lot of parents. Managing the children while juggling job is a tiring task.
They can be a source of pride one moment and a test of your patience the next. However, life may rapidly become intolerable if your partner isn’t helping out or doesn’t realize what it actually takes to care for children.
Take the story of one woman in particular who has been suffering immensely due to her husband’s lack of help with their children. According to her, her husband hasn’t been taking the responsibility of caring for the kids seriously, which has left her feeling overwhelmed and even more frustrated.
This frustration reached a breaking point when she got ill, leaving her with no choice but to lock her kids out of her room, refusing to indulge their constant cries and complaints. She felt helpless and furious that her husband wasn’t coming to her rescue as he should have been.
For a woman who has been taking the lead in childcare all through her marriage, it wasn’t unusual that the kids were dependent on her to solve their issues without even considering their dad. What more can you do when your partner isn’t willing to step up and help out?
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OP explained that she does most of the childcare and housework at home, with her husband doing little or nothing to reduce the pressure from their 3 kids
OP got ill and asked her husband to help out with caring for the kids. However, the kids depend on her a lot, without even considering if their dad is around
Unfortunately, OP husband found it difficult to handle the kids, and they kept disturbing her rest at intervals. This caused OP to snap out at everyone
Now her husband is upset, demanding that OP finds a way to assist with the kids even though she’s sick
Check out some of the most interesting reactions from the Reddit community below:
One Redditor described OP’s husband’s action as thus
“NTA, your partner needs to grow the fuck up and start being a father.”
“He needs to step up and parent his kids. They are getting overly attached to you because you’re the “main” parent in their eyes when it should be equal.”
“He can boss up – roles reversed you’d be expected to.”
OP needs a doctor’s appointment
“He’s their father, not doing you a favor by watching them.”
“NTA. You are sick. You should be in bed in peace, not being bothered for every little thing with the kids.”
“My husband and I share a 6 and 3 year old. If I’m feeling unwell, or have work to catch up on, he handles it like any involved parent should.”
“Does that mean you can never take a vacation by yourself either until they’re older? Because they would be inconsolable if you did?”
“You already do more than your partner, and if that is further reinforced then the dependency will get worse.”
“You should start sharing chores 50/50 so kids are not so dependent of you.”
“Your partner should’ve been able to handle it and let you have a break when you weren’t feeling well.”
“NTA and you need to have a serious talk with your partner about getting him to help more with the kids.”
“Your husband needs to step up and be a parent when you are sick.”
“He is clueless. BUT if you want the relationship to improve, you have to think about how to explain to him so he gets it a little.”
“NTA both parents have to know and be capable of running the home alone.”
The truth is that parenting is a team effort, and both partners should be willing to contribute their fair share. It’s important to communicate openly, set boundaries, and take the time to understand each other’s roles in helping raise the kids.
When one partner’s effort falters, the other needs to pick up the slack so that the burden doesn’t become too much to bear. This way, parents can ensure they enjoy their journey of raising children and have a smooth sail ahead!
What’s your take on OP’s reaction to the entire situation? Share your thoughts in the comments below!