Is she wrong for telling her aunt that having another baby would reduce the gifts for her cousins?
Reddit user m__ossbaII has an aunt named Ann who currently has four children, aged 3, 7, 10, and 14. Ann and her husband originally wanted two children, a boy and a girl, but now they have four girls.
While m__ossbaII does not know the financial situation of Ann and her husband, she knows that their house is not large enough for all the children and that they often have to share rooms and throw out toys due to clutter. m__ossbaII usually buys Ann’s children and pets at least two Christmas presents.
Recently, Ann announced at her wedding party that she was going to try to have another baby, which surprised everyone. m__ossbaII asked Ann if she would convert part of her house or move to accommodate the new child, but Ann brushed off the question and said that “god always finds a way.”
While doing the Christmas shopping for Ann’s kids, m__ossbaII realized that with the rising cost of living and the potential new baby, she would not be able to afford to buy Christmas presents for all the kids, the dog, two guinea pigs, and a hamster.
So m__ossbaII called Ann to tell her that if she has another child, she will only be able to give her kids one present for Christmas. Since then, m__ossbaII’s family and Ann’s family have been calling to tell her she is an “a-hole” for telling Ann about the Christmas present limitations.
m__ossbaII feels overwhelmed by the pressure and wants to know if she is in the wrong for setting this boundary with her aunt. Here’s what the AITA community had to say.
Here’s how it started.
God always finds a way…
She had an epiphany that this could get expensive.
Now everyone thinks she’s wrong. Here’s what Reddit thinks.
1. She could have bought fewer gifts without informing her aunt.
2. She should learn to keep her opinions to herself.
3. Her aunt’s children are not her responsibility.
4. She shouldn’t spend more than she can afford.
5. She’s trying to control her aunt’s choices with gifts.
6. She doesn’t owe her aunt’s family any gifts.
7. She should stop using gifts as an excuse to judge her aunt.
8. She’s free to reduce the gifts.
9. One gift per child is enough.
10. She has no right to influence her aunt’s decision to have another baby.
11. Telling her aunt about it was unnecessary.
12. Her aunt isn’t even pregnant yet, so why the rush?
13. She’s stylishly telling her aunt that she disapproves of her decisions.
14. She shouldn’t buy any gift if she can’t afford it.
15. She should set a budget.
16. She could buy a gift that all the kids can play with.
17. How much she spends on gifts is nobody’s business.
18. Her money, her decision.
19. It’s unreasonable to tell one’s relatives not to have a child.
20. Her aunt’s family planning isn’t her business.
What Do You Think?
Allowing people to make their own decisions, even when you think they are making a mistake, is important because it respects their autonomy and personal freedom.
Every individual has the right to make their own choices and live their life as they see fit, as long as they are not harming others.
By allowing people to make their own decisions, you are giving them the opportunity to learn and grow, even if you disagree with their choices.
What do you think?
