We all know growing boys eat a lot! So, as a parent, how do you decide how much is too much (or too expensive) for your rapidly growing young man to eat freely?
Recently, Reddit user u/Outside_Stomach_877 posted a story in the AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit about her 11-year-old son, Adam. The original poster explained that Adam loves food!
The Redditor says she has never worried about Adam’s food intake as he isn’t gaining weight or eating unhealthy foods. She said that she usually cooks meals each day with enough leftovers for everyone to enjoy.
She explained that her husband likes to go out to eat at a bar once a week for some “comfort food.” And the “rule” is that if he brings leftovers home, it’s his only and is off-limits to everyone else.
But the Reddit user says that Adam often breaks that rule, which makes her husband angry. She said sometimes he would scream and curse at Adam if he came home to find his leftovers gone.
The OP says her husband told her she needs to teach Adam some respect, or he will do it for her. The Redditor has told her son not to eat the food because she doesn’t want to “put up with his father’s hissy fit,” but Adam won’t listen.
The OP says that Adam complains that it’s not fair his dad gets to eat steak and ribs when he isn’t allowed to. But the Redditor says it’s “too expensive.”
Later, the OP edited her post to say that her husband does not beat his son in any way; he “just yells” and “takes privileges.” Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.
The OP shared a story about her 11-year-old son, Adam.
She explained that her husband likes to go out to eat at a bar once a week for some “comfort food.” And the “rule” is that if he brings leftovers home, it’s his only and is off-limits to everyone else.
But the Reddit user says that Adam often breaks that rule, which makes her husband angry.
The OP says that Adam complains that it’s not fair his dad gets to eat steak and ribs when he isn’t allowed to. But the Redditor says it’s “too expensive.”
So, she asked the Reddit community is she is the a**hole.
Later, the OP edited her post to say that her husband does not beat his son in any way, he “just yells” and “takes privileges.”
Here’s how people reacted.
“I feel sorry for your son.”
“Stick up for your kid.”
“It is abuse.”
“You and your husband both need to work on your parenting skills.”
“You are allowing abuse to your child.”
“Your jusband sounds selfish and cruel.”
“He is ELEVEN!”
“You and your husband are both the AH’s.”
“The prelude of an eating disorder.”
“That’s some real BS!”
“They’re probably not getting enough to eat.”
“There’s clearly a disconnect.”
“Being yelled at is abuse.”
Hope he can afford therapy!
Okay, but is he getting enough to eat?
“Screaming and yelling is a form of abuse too.”
“YTA for letting this go on.”
“He needs food.”
“Massive YTA.”
What’s your take on this situation? Do you think the OP should stick up for her son more, or is she right for not allowing Adam to eat his father’s food?
Either way, it’s important to remember that Adam is just 11 years old. He’s a child and should be treated as such.
We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.