I had no idea what would happen when the man of my dreams decided to leave his wife for me.
Living in a small town close to York during our college years, I had been enamored with him. I was so overcome by this blind, head-over-heels love that I forgot everything else. I lost what little sense I still had when he finally saw me. We met by chance in a law firm years after graduating from college. Because of our shared interests and profession, I felt that this wasn’t merely a coincidence but rather a divine sign that my fantasy was about to come true.
To me, he seemed like the man of dreams. The fact that he had a wife didn’t bother me when I was young—I didn’t know what it was like when a marriage falls apart or understand the pain hidden in such stories. I felt no shame when Oliver left his wife for me. Who could have thought that this choice would lead to such heartache? The saying is true: you can’t build happiness on someone else’s misfortune.
When he chose me, I was on cloud nine, ready to forgive him anything. But in everyday life, he was far from a prince. His scattered belongings took over the flat; he refused to do dishes, and all the household responsibilities fell on me like a heavy burden. Back then, I overlooked it all—love blinded me, making me soft, yielding, almost helpless.
He quickly forgot about his previous marriage as if it had been erased from memory. They didn’t have kids, and as he confessed, the wedding was her parents’ idea. “With you, it’s different; you are my destiny,” he whispered, and I melted. My happiness was bright but short-lived, like a flash of lightning. Everything changed when I became pregnant.
At first, Oliver was overjoyed—a child, his child! We threw a big family celebration, inviting relatives and friends. Toasts, wishes of happiness, health for the baby—that evening remained a bright spot in my memory, a warm island in a sea of coming darkness. I don’t regret it, but after that night, my blind love began to fade like a candle in the wind.
As my belly grew, I saw less of Oliver at home. I went on maternity leave, and our meetings shrank to late evenings. He stayed late at work, vanished at office parties. At first, I endured it, but soon it became unbearable. Household life turned into torture: I, heavily pregnant, struggled to move, while his socks and shirts lay around silently mocking my naïveté. I kept asking myself if we had rushed things with the baby. Love cools over time, I knew that, but I didn’t expect it to evaporate so quickly.
He still brought flowers, chocolates, but that wasn’t what I needed—I wanted him close, his support, his warmth. Then the truth surfaced. A chance conversation with colleagues over coffee opened my eyes: a new employee had joined the department, young and spirited. The team was already stretched thin, and my maternity leave had made the situation critical. Coincidence? I didn’t know, but Oliver clearly had someone else. His life now consisted of “work,” “meetings,” and “urgent engagements.” One day, I found a note with unfamiliar initials in his jacket pocket. My heart clenched, but I quietly put it back, deciding to pretend blindness. The fear of being alone at seven months pregnant paralyzed me.
He began to complain that I was “constantly on edge,” and every argument ended in his weary sigh, as if I were a burden. I was too scared to bring up the main issue—I knew it was the end. And it came. The most dreadful words I heard were: “I’m not ready for kids. I have someone else.” How he said it, I don’t remember; my head buzzed, my world collapsed. I thought I would go insane with pain and humiliation.
But I found the strength within myself. I filed for divorce, even though every letter on that document felt like a stab to my heart. He didn’t expect me to have the guts to throw his things out the very next day. Thank goodness the flat was rented—there was no property to split.
“And the child? Think of the child! How will you raise him?” he tossed at me.
“I’ll manage. I’ll work from home. And my parents will help. Mum always said you were a womanizer; I should have listened,” I shot back, slamming the door.
The responsibility for my son gave me a backbone I never knew I had. Alone, I wouldn’t have left, but for him—I did. His betrayal was so treacherous that I erased Oliver from my life as if he had never existed. My eyes opened, and I saw his true self.
The first months after the divorce, including the birth, were hell. I returned to my parents’ place in a nearby town—they welcomed me with open arms, especially delighted with their grandson. I missed Oliver but pushed those thoughts away. Deep down, I knew I had done the right thing and would give my son everything I could.
As soon as I regained my strength, I resumed work—translating legal texts from home. There were months without income, but my parents supported me until I had clients. My son grew, years flew by unnoticed. I realized it when I knew he needed his own space. My parents were reluctant to let us go, but I dreamed of independence—a study for me, his own room for school. By then, I could afford to rent a flat.
Life got back on track. Nursery gave way to primary school, first grade to fifth, and for the first time in years, I felt freedom and peace. But then he appeared again. Our town isn’t big, and in the legal field, everyone knows each other. Oliver tracked down my office easily. How I regretted not moving farther away! He claimed that he had “sown his wild oats,” regretted the past, that he was “young and foolish.” He begged to meet the son he had never seen.
By law, he has the right to visitation, and if he presses the matter, he’ll get it. But the thought chills me. It’s been several weeks since that conversation. I told him I’d think about it, but my mind is in chaos—I don’t trust him and don’t want him near my son. Perhaps this is my punishment? The price for having taken him from his first wife? I’m seriously considering moving to another city to save us from this past knocking on my door again.