Weddings are meant to be one of the most important and personal days for a couple. It’s their special moment, and everything should be about them, right? But in today’s AITA story, that wasn’t quite the case.
OP hadn’t seen his family in several months and had only exchanged a few brief phone calls with them during that time. He claims that he didn’t intentionally distance himself, but when the time came for his sister’s wedding, things took an unexpected turn. Despite attending the ceremony, his sister didn’t speak to him at all, and he was left wondering if his absence had caused irreparable damage.
In the midst of all the wedding excitement, OP finds himself questioning whether his actions were misunderstood or if he’s being unfairly judged for not being more present.
I’ve been fiercely independent for most of my life and I get easily caught up in whatever I’m doing at the time that makes it hard for me to remember to keep those not in my direct line of sight in the loop. My mother is the same way.
OP got in touch with his childhood friend, and he says it was one of the most important relationships in his life for over a decade. It turned into them getting married, and the OP decided to announce it two weeks before their trip for his sister’s wedding.
“I wanted to assuage any possibility of us ‘stealing any thunder’ right from the get go. My mom replied that she was hurt that she wasn’t told sooner or allowed to be there, which I understood,” OP writes.
OP’s sister asked him not to wear his wedding ring to her wedding as her rehearsal dinner was already about them, but the OP didn’t listen. Read the entire story for yourself as you scroll down below.
The headline
The OP’s been fiercely independent for most of his life and he gets easily caught up
OP’s sister pulled him aside and asked if they would not wear their wedding rings to her ceremony
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:
- I wore my wedding ring to my sister’s ceremony after she asked me not to.
- Doing this, I might’ve drawn more attention to myself and the fact that I had gotten married without most of my family’s knowledge, thus taking attention away from her.
The Reddit post went viral with more than 2k comments and we’ve gathered some of the topmost replies for you below
The OP seems remarkably self centered
Her rehearsal dinner became the OP and his spouse’s debut
This Redditor wants to know the answer to an important info
The family’s first time meeting the husband
The OP’s can’t be bothered to think about others as he wants the focus to be on him
The OP should plan his own reception than redirecting the attention of people that came for his sister’s wedding
The OP’s doesn’t understand the consequences of his actions
It’s really not about the rings; rather, it’s about what they represent—OP’s marriage—and how he chose to announce it to his close family two weeks before his sister’s wedding, essentially taking the limelight away from her special day. Many Redditors said he could have waited until after the wedding before he spilled; hence he was declared the AH in the story.
