OP (26F) and her husband Jake (28M) have been together for five years and married for three. Recently, they began trying for a baby, and three weeks ago, OP received the exciting news that she was pregnant.
Both families were thrilled, and OP’s mom and MIL even planned a big baby shower. But things took an unexpected turn two nights ago. When OP asked Jake to turn off the lights in the house, his response was, “No, this is what is expected of you every night.”
This seemingly small disagreement triggered a bigger conversation about changes in their relationship, leading OP to question her husband’s recent behavior and share her story. It sparked a wave of other women sharing their own unsettling experiences, highlighting how pregnancy can sometimes bring out surprising and concerning shifts in behavior.
Jake then went on a long and unprovoked rant, telling OP that just because she is pregnant, it does not mean anything will change and that she is still expected to cook, clean, and do all the chores every day. OP asked what Jake was going to do to help her with this, and he responded by saying he works his ass off at his job to provide for OP and their future children.
Jake then said that it doesn’t matter how OP feels physically or mentally and that she must push through everything. OP became very upset and yelled that she wished she had known this before she got pregnant with Jake’s baby.
Jake left for the night and has not returned. Read the full story and the frightening experiences other women shared below:
OP asks:
OP and her husband Jake have been together for five years and married for three. Recently, they have started trying for a baby, and three weeks ago, OP received a positive test back.
When OP asked Jake to turn off the lights in the house, Jake responded by saying, “No, this is what is expected of you every night.”
OP was hurt, but did it. Jake then went on a long and unprovoked rant, telling OP that just because she is pregnant, it does not mean anything will change and that she is still expected to cook, clean, and do all the chores every day
OP was shocked
OP asked what Jake was going to do to help her with this, and he responded by saying he works his ass off at his job to provide for OP and their future children.
OP responded:
Now she asks:
She posted an edit:
She will do this
This Redditor suggest OP goes nuclear
Coparenting with someone this toxic sounds terrible
This Redditor shared her experiences..
This is scary info
So scary
Women started sharing their painful experiences:
It took her eight years to get out
This woman said:
This is the reason:
Right where he wants her:
This sounds about right:
Many couples find that the dynamics of their relationship shift when one of them becomes pregnant. While some couples are able to adjust to the changes and find joy in the new situation, for others, it can be a source of stress and tension.
The reality is that the roles of each partner can change significantly when one of them is pregnant. The pregnant partner’s body will undergo many changes, both physically and emotionally.
They may be dealing with morning sickness, fatigue, and other symptoms. This can make them less able to take care of tasks around the house, and they may need more emotional support and understanding from their partner.
And if you were wondering, homicide is the leading cause of death for pregnant women in the U.S.
