Every family has its own set of secrets, and sometimes, those secrets can cut deeper than anyone expects. For the OP, the time had come to bring those secrets to light, revealing truths that had long been buried.
OP recounted how her father’s infidelity was the catalyst for their family’s downfall. However, it wasn’t just the affair that left scars—it was the betrayal that followed, particularly from the woman who would eventually become her stepmother. The emotional turmoil was compounded by a constant, unspoken rivalry for their father’s love and attention, with OP always feeling as though she was vying against a force she couldn’t control.
OP revealed that her stepmother took pleasure in belittling her worth and that of her sister. At just fifteen years old, she was reduced to nothing more than a ‘family friend,’ stripped of her rightful place as a daughter.
In addition, OP accused her stepmother of interfering with her dad’s care when he was battling a stroke. Not to mention the numerous times she prevented her and her sister from visiting him in the hospital.
OP’s father eventually passed away. And she has been restless ever since.
OP feels obligated to reveal these hidden truths to her three young half-siblings. She wants them to know who their mother truly is and how she was responsible for destroying her once-happy family.
The question is: would such a revelation be necessary at this point, or is it something that should be kept buried away with the passing of their father?
The story in detail
OP is contemplating telling her half-siblings the truth about their mother
Here are some startling revelations about her father and stepmother’s marriage
This goes deep into how OP’s stepmother treated her and her sister
Finally, OP talks about her father’s hospitalization and how her stepmother interfered with his care
Here’s what the Reddit community had to say about this story:
“YWBTA if you tell them just to make yourself feel better. In time they will learn their own truths about her.”
“What I would do in your situation is try to have a conversation with either of the two oldest siblings.”
“I think you should give it a year and go to grief counseling in that year.”
“YWBTA because you aren’t doing this for the sake of your half siblings”
“Don’t forget to tell them your dad cheated on her.”
“If they’re content with their relationship with their mom, don’t try to interfere.”
“Stay out of it, nothing good will come of it.”
“Please don’t impose these truths to your half siblings, who are kids that just lost their dad as well”
The majority of commenters have decided that OP’s motive is not for the benefit of her half-siblings; rather, it’s all about vendetta. Thus, nothing good is likely to come out of such a revelation.
Some people have also pointed out that OP’s half-siblings are also grieving, so it would be unfair to drop a bomb like this on them at this moment.
Just like one Redditor suggested, we believe that grief counseling could do OP a world of good.
What advice would you give OP in this situation? Join the conversation in the comments below.
