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AITA for not wanting my fiancee’s non binary sibling to be a groomsmen?

by Charlie Brown
October 16, 2025
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In the delicate dance of love and family, a newly engaged couple faces the tender complexities of identity and acceptance. Dan, deeply devoted to his non-binary sibling Quinn, cherishes their unique bond, while the fiancée navigates a world where love, understanding, and societal norms often collide.

Quinn’s presence is a vibrant thread in their shared story—quirky, funny, and unapologetically authentic—challenging traditional roles and expectations. As wedding plans unfold, the promise of unity is shadowed by the weight of recognition, respect, and the courage to honor every facet of their intertwined lives.

AITA for not wanting my fiancee’s non binary sibling to be a groomsmen?

(Using a throwaway and making up names for privacy) My...

He has one sibling, who identifies as non binary. We'll...

Dan dotes on them and they are super super close....

They're a bit quirky and nerdy, which isn't typically what...

Though Quinn identifies as non binary, they're usually gendered as...

and are on the bigger side with a pretty big...

Today I was discussing wedding plans with Dan and he...

I figured that Quinn would wear a dress, since they...

Quinn doesn't use a binder and I'm afraid they would...

When I expressed this to my fiancee he was mad....

I really don't, and I don't mind Quinn being a...

Like I don't mind Quinn going to the bachelor party...

I even said Quinn could wear a black dress or...

He said he won't even ask Quinn about it, cause...

First I'd like to say thank you for all the...

I grew up in a pretty prejudice and small town,...

but I've realized that I was still unconsciously holding onto...

since they are his only sibling, and quite a bit...

Quinn and I had a heart to heart, which was...

I told Quinn about what I had been thinking, but...

They appreciated my honesty and were more than happy to...

After Dan and I talked it out we decided they...

Quinn will be wearing a suit, which I will be...

Though Quinn will be getting with my bridal party, purely...

So all and all things are looking a lot better,...

What do you think of this story?





AFTER THIS STORY DROPPED, REDDIT WENT INTO MELTDOWN MODE – CHECK OUT WHAT PEOPLE SAID.

MarialeegRVT >Quinn's parents are alright with it, but don't really...

Why have you decided they don't really understand? Because if...

What you need to realize is that literally *no one*...

least of all who is in your wedding party. Get...

lace and satin covered a*s, and just realize that the...

I can't stress enough that NO ONE IN THE ENTIRE...

You will damage relationships if you decide to die on...

keesouth the shit that future bride's care about when 50%...

It's not about what the person is wearing or what...

It's about who your husband wants by their side on...

Careful_Eagle_1033 YTA You shouldn't make Quinn conform to gender norms...

your older and less open minded family members feel more...

rjay203 YTA; Quinn is your fiancé's sibling.

Your fiancé wants Quinn standing behind him, wearing what Quinn...

And the reason you feel ent*tled to request your fiancé's...

uncomfortable with the way they look? Really? It's like if...

and your fiancé says you shouldn't because his Grammy prefers...

Appropriate-Value54 YTA. Literally just ask them what they're more comfortable...

It doesn't matter if your older relatives are "confused. "...

regardless of how they present,

lawrencek1992 ought to be more important to you than petty...

most of the time or ever. They are nonbinary.

A*suming large b***sts or makeup or long hair or short...

Anyone can have those physical characteristics or wear those things....

Some enbys use language like femme-presenting/femme or masc/masc-presenting or andro/androgynous....

But if Quinn says they are NOT femme presenting and...

Their gender isn't necessarily tied up in what they choose...

Your fiance is upset because you DO see Quinn as...

It's really not fair to them that you observe their...

woman everywhere we go.

" The a*sumption that they would wear a dress and...

When you talk about them sticking out because of their...

it sounds like you are more worried about making Quinn...

I think you need to try for a mental shift...

They just want to exist and be a part of...

You by trying to disallow Quinn as a groomsperson in...

Instead of forcing Quinn to change in order to accommodate...

instead provide space for Quinn to participate as they are.

The changes that need to happen are that you and...

Quinn does not need to make a change. If you...

It sounds like your fiance is very close to them....

It may cause your fiance to be concerned about the...

I'm a*suming you are probably the kind of person who...

I'm also a*suming based on how you speak that either...

If that's the case,

then you of course lack a schema to make sense...

binary). You're not a shitty person for lacking that.

But you absolutely 100% will be TA if you allow...

way and be a part of the women who are...

Instead try having an open and vulnerable conversation with fiance,...

and/or both where you share that you have identified some...

Explain that you understand now that these biases can lead...

Explain your concern over other family members being weird. Ask...

I mean suggestions on the best choices to make but...

and suggestions for the right language to use, etc. Quinn...

Ask your fiance about it before trying to include Quinn...

But if you want to not be the a*shole, find...

Identifying that you are being an a*shole and engaging in...

change behavior.

Let this be a learning and growth opportunity rather than...

moment in which you cause potentially longterm familial conflicts. Quinn...

so please take the time to do some personal growth...

- Sincerely a non-binary afab redditor who is often femme...

mrslII YTA You don't define Quinn. Quinn defines Quinn. Also.

gertyorkes You don't accept Quinn Don't lie to yourself, or...

If Quinn is in the wedding party regardless, who cares...

If their gender presentation could go either way, ASK if...

Bitter-Conflict-4089 Honestly, If I was your fiancé. I would be...

Starting with. What happens if/when you have children.

Will you try and dictate what Quinn wears and how...

ParsimoniousSalad YTA all the way. You need to accept Quinn...

and the sibling relationship as more important than your image...

Who said that only one gender is allowed to stand...

And why would you ever value the imagined potential momentary...

If I were Quinn's brother, I would hesitate to have...

After reading through the Reddit comments, it’s clear that many readers sympathized with the original poster’s confusion and curiosity about the role Quinn would play in the wedding. A significant number appreciated the effort to respect Quinn’s non-binary identity while also navigating traditional wedding roles. Some comments highlighted the importance of open communication between all parties to ensure everyone feels comfortable and respected during such a significant event. Others noted that blending non-traditional identities with conventional ceremonies can be challenging but ultimately rewarding when approached with kindness and understanding.

In my opinion, this story underscores the evolving nature of family dynamics and the importance of inclusivity. Weddings are deeply personal, and incorporating unique family identities like Quinn’s non-binary status enriches the celebration. While it might take some adjustment and dialogue, honoring each person’s identity and role can create a more meaningful and memorable experience for everyone involved. It’s encouraging to see people striving to embrace diversity in these important life moments.

Charlie Brown

Charlie is a creative mind who enjoys writing about art, music, and culture.

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