She carries the weight of their home and growing life inside her, yet her partner shrinks away from the simplest acts of support. As the grass towers over four feet and the dog waste piles up, his excuses and indifference cut deeper than any neglected yard or broken fence. Her pregnancy doesn’t soften his refusal; it only magnifies her isolation and exhaustion.
In a house where she shoulders the mortgage alone and he hides behind empty promises, love feels like a one-sided battle. His absence in work and unwillingness to share the burdens of life leave her questioning the foundation of their relationship—fragile as the chain link fence he left broken and forgotten.
AIAH for wanting to call the police on my boyfriend over him not helping him so they can get him out of my house?
As noted by relationship expert and author Dr. Harriet Lerner, effective partnerships require shared responsibility and clear communication, stating, “Boundaries are the language of self-respect.” This situation presents a severe breakdown in shared labor and mutual respect, amplified by the physical vulnerability of late-stage pregnancy.
The boyfriend’s behavior exhibits a clear avoidance pattern regarding physical tasks (yard work, dog waste) and financial contribution (the OP covers the primary mortgage while he funds a non-residential, unlivable property). His comments comparing the pregnant OP to other women doing yard work suggest a lack of empathy and an attempt to shift responsibility rather than offer genuine support. Furthermore, his failure to repair the damaged fence indicates negligence regarding shared property maintenance. The dynamic appears imbalanced, where the OP is absorbing the physical, financial, and domestic labor while the boyfriend remains largely inactive, offering only temporary, conditional compliance (“be my slave and do it the following day”).
Given the impending birth and the existing stress related to finances and household management, the OP’s frustration leading to thoughts of involving the police is understandable, though extreme. A more constructive initial step would be to formally establish a written division of labor and a clear financial plan, coupled with a serious discussion about the future viability of the relationship under current patterns. If the partner remains unwilling to engage constructively in shared responsibility, then the decision to separate may need to be addressed legally, rather than through emergency services.
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The individual is experiencing significant distress and anger due to the lack of physical support from her boyfriend during her late-stage pregnancy, compounded by financial imbalance and unfulfilled responsibilities regarding household maintenance and pet care.
Is the severity of the current situation—involving physical demands, financial contributions, and alleged abandonment of duties while the partner is pregnant—sufficient justification for the consideration of involving law enforcement to remove the unemployed partner from the shared residence?
