The user, a 26-year-old male, was on vacation in Florida with his 26-year-old girlfriend and their 6-year-old son. While at a theme park that served alcohol, the user left his girlfriend and son to continue riding attractions. Upon returning from the restroom, he found his girlfriend arguing with another family.
The argument started because the other family’s children accidentally knocked over the girlfriend’s drink. Although the other family was apologetic, the girlfriend, possibly due to alcohol consumption, escalated the situation to the point where security and police intervened, resulting in the group being asked to leave the park. After being forced to leave, the girlfriend continued to argue with the police before finally getting into the car. The user is now questioning whether he should leave the vacation early with their son without her.
AITAH if I leave my gf on vacation
As licensed family therapist Dr. Terri Cole states, “Boundaries are about taking care of yourself. Boundaries are not about controlling other people.”
The situation described involves a significant breach of personal safety and public conduct, clearly illustrating a need for immediate, firm boundaries. The girlfriend’s reaction—escalating a minor accident into a physical altercation, arguing with security and police, and then assaulting the OP—points towards an inability to manage frustration, potentially exacerbated by alcohol use. The OP’s action of taking himself and his son to the hotel via Uber, and subsequently considering leaving her behind, is a direct, albeit reactive, attempt to establish a boundary rooted in self-preservation. However, abandoning her in a distant location, even after her erratic behavior, shifts the dynamic from boundary-setting to potential abandonment, which complicates the ethical resolution.
Given the documented physical violence towards the OP and the public disturbance, the OP’s primary responsibility is to ensure the immediate safety of himself and his child. His decision to leave the immediate volatile situation with his son was appropriate. For future situations, the recommendation is to proactively set clear expectations regarding alcohol consumption and conflict de-escalation before stressful events, and to have pre-established safety protocols (like separate transportation options or designated contacts) in place when traveling with someone exhibiting such high-risk behavior.
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The original poster (OP) is facing a severe dilemma stemming from his girlfriend’s volatile and aggressive behavior, which escalated from a minor incident to physical violence against him and involvement with law enforcement. His current emotional position is one of fear and self-preservation, prioritizing his and his son’s safety over maintaining the relationship structure of the trip.
The central conflict is whether the OP is justified in abandoning the vacation and leaving his girlfriend behind following an incident involving public intoxication, physical assault on him, and further police interaction at their lodging. The reader must weigh the gravity of the girlfriend’s actions against the implications of the OP leaving her stranded and alone.
