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My (32F) husband (31M) refuses to move for my dream job?

by Jane Smith
October 16, 2025
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After years of relentless struggle and unwavering dedication, an academic finally secures the dream job that promises the stability and recognition they have long sought. This rare opportunity, born from perseverance and sacrifice, stands as a beacon of hope amidst a turbulent career landscape, offering a future once thought unattainable.

Yet, the promise of this new beginning is shadowed by a painful divide—between ambition and home, between personal dreams and shared commitments. As the reality of moving looms, the heart-wrenching tension between forging ahead and holding on threatens to unravel everything built together.

My (32F) husband (31M) refuses to move for my dream job?

I've kind of reached an impa*se here so throwing it...

I've been applying for everything possible for the last three...

It's permanent, and since it's externally funded from a University...

This is my dream job and it's that career stability...

They want me in the office full-time, and the job...

My new boss is flexible on me being in the...

However, my husband is dead set against moving. We have...

I'm currently working about a 4-hour commute away (2h each...

However, he wants to be close to his family, and...

I've been open to pivoting and looking at career opportunities...

but there's nothing within about a 30-mile radius (which given...

Staying here would mean taking a 20-40% paycut, as I'm...

This would obviously put a huge strain on our joint...

my husband's parents are planning on moving in the (very)...

They already have a summer house in mainland EU that...

and they're also now looking at selling the current place...

I've tried to discuss this with my husband but he...

He has, however, suggested that we could move with his...

so the situation is the same; there aren't job opportunities...

I think what hurts the most is that he's totally...

I understand him wanting to be close to family but...

Especially when staying close to family means our relationship taking...

And then, the fact that he's totally willing to up...

It's been a truly miserable situation with everyone being happy...

What do you think of this story?





THIS STORY SHOOK THE INTERNET – AND REDDITORS DIDN’T HOLD BACK.

allyearswift You're already working a 4h commute, which is brutal.

Why, again,

does your husband get the deciding vote in your partnership...

away anyway? Please don't tank your career. Take that job....

and consider what you want going forward. You cannot be...

and you WILL resent your husband if you're losing £10-20K...

you're trained for. Either way, your relationship is toast, but...

His parents aren't in immediate need of care (which he...

so why is he so insistent that his comfort tips...

Getting a good job in academia is HARD, he should...

GenoFlower So you're currently working 2 hours away from home,...

He wants to always stay near his family, even when...

Is this something you discussed prior to marriage? Have you...

Is there some special reason why he needs his parents?...

This isn't something I could live with, but it's your...

Eyupmeduck1989 I'm a UK academic and I really get how...

From what you've said,

it seems your husband cares more about the idea of...

longer!). He's calling them his family, but aren't you his...

herculepoirot4ever and how far down the list you are. Whether...

You're 32, and this is a career achievement. You've worked...

If your husband loved you and supported you, he'd move...

But he's more interested in being close to mommy and...

Get a counselor or therapist. You will find someone who...

livingdream111 Full time permanent academic jobs are virtually impossible to...

olneyvideo I can't imagine pa*sing up that opportunity: "I'd rather...

parents" is a wild statement. Pretty sure if you don't...

Ooeillade People here are not going to understand the academic...

I helped run a faculty search (here in the US)...

all over the country. Did he ever seem interested/understand what...

All of the applicants for our faculty search wanted to...

The family was on board and understood how hard it...

If he doesn't try to understand or want to understand,...

MotherOfLochs It actually sounds like his relationship with his family...

important than you.

This isn't new and I wonder whether you had ignored...

He won't go to counselling, discuss other options in which...

The question is whether you will sacrifice your dream job...

dudleymunta I'm an academic and I know how hard it...

through. Things to think about. Is your husband open to...

Eg moving there but with a deal you'll move back...

Would you be open to some way of going without...

Not ideal, but is there any possibility of negotiating a...

If you don't take this job, are you going to...

If you have to choose, and you might, what do...

I get that moving is a big ask but it's...

and it's probably possible to still see family after they...

Puce-moments Take the job. You are already stuck having to...

He may come to his senses when you leave or...

You may never get this chance again, and your husband...

After reading through the Reddit comments, it seems many sympathize with the difficult position this academic finds themselves in. The consensus is that while career opportunities like this are rare and valuable, the emotional and logistical challenges of uprooting a family shouldn’t be underestimated. Some commenters suggest finding a compromise, such as negotiating a longer transition period or exploring remote work options, given the changing nature of academia and work in general.

In my opinion, this situation underscores the complex balance between professional ambition and personal commitments. While the offer represents a dream job and long-sought stability, it’s important to consider the impact on family dynamics and the partner’s feelings. Open communication and exploring creative solutions seem key, as sometimes the best path forward is one that respects both career goals and home life.

Jane Smith

Jane loves exploring new cultures and writing about travel and lifestyle.

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