The original poster (OP) is providing an update following a previous situation, described as the “cinnamon fiasco,” which resulted in a breakup with their boyfriend. The OP mentions receiving both support and criticism online.
After more than two weeks, the OP is starting to feel better about themselves, although memories of the ex-partner still cause distress. The OP expresses a strong desire to conclude this chapter and move forward, hoping this will be the final update on the matter.
UPDATE 2- AITAH for crying when my boyfriend let his best friend’s wife alter the dish I made for dinner?
As relationship expert and author Dr. Terrence Real states, “The core of an intimate relationship is felt safety. When safety is violated, the relationship is in danger.”
The situation described highlights a significant violation of felt safety for the OP, stemming from the ex-partner’s initial failure to support them against his friends’ behavior, followed by his friends’ active participation in the OP’s humiliation. The OP initially sought external validation for their feelings, which is a common response to betrayal or invalidation. The ex-partner’s eventual apology, prompted by his own friends recognizing the poor treatment, suggests a delayed realization of the severity of his actions. However, the OP’s decision to cease contact is a healthy demonstration of establishing boundaries to restore personal safety, even if it is painful.
The OP’s current state—feeling low, struggling with work, and relying on a strong support system—is expected after an emotionally costly breakup. The professional recommendation is to continue with therapy, as one session is rarely enough to process such events. Maintaining the decision to enforce no contact with the ex and the associated social circle is crucial for psychological recovery. Future dating should be postponed until the OP has fully re-established internal validation, ensuring they do not seek a partner who requires external justification for their worth.
THIS STORY SHOOK THE INTERNET – AND REDDITORS DIDN’T HOLD BACK.
The original poster has reached a decision to close the chapter on the relationship, having blocked the ex-partner and resolved not to re-establish contact with the ex or his friends, Dave and Ellie. The OP is currently dealing with emotional lows, academic strain, and familial support, prioritizing self-care and future plans over dwelling on the past drama.
The central conflict now lies between the need to process significant emotional hurt and the necessity of focusing on graduation and work. The key question remains whether the OP can successfully maintain this boundary and fully commit to moving forward, or if lingering emotional ties will impede their stated goals of stability and academic success.
