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AITA for not telling a bunch of random women I’m gay?
As renowned researcher Dr. Brené Brown explains, “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” This situation highlights a clash between established personal boundaries (the OP’s choice not to broadcast his sexuality) and the social expectations imposed by others in a brief interaction.
The OP’s motivation appears to be avoidance of conflict and discomfort, which is a common reaction when unexpectedly put on the spot, especially by strangers. While he did not actively encourage the attention, his silence can be interpreted by others—the flirting women—as tacit acceptance, especially since they were operating under the assumption he was straight and available. The women’s reaction, labeling him an AH, stems from public rejection and perceived humiliation, suggesting a lack of grace in handling disappointment. However, the OP had no prior relationship or commitment to these individuals, meaning he owed them only basic politeness, not personal disclosure.
The OP’s actions, in this context, were appropriate as he was conducting a professional errand and was under no ethical or social obligation to announce his private life to casual acquaintances. A more effective future strategy might involve a very brief, polite deflection when flirting starts, such as a simple, “Thank you, but I should get going,” or a gentle, “I appreciate that, but I’m actually in a relationship.” This minimizes prolonged awkwardness without requiring a detailed personal announcement.
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The original poster (OP) is facing criticism from acquaintances after fulfilling a favor for his hungover father by delivering contracted work. The central conflict arises because the OP did not disclose his sexual orientation to women who were flirting with him, leading them to feel embarrassed and label him as the asshole (AH). The OP feels conflicted, appreciating his father’s defense but feeling responsible for the women’s perceived embarrassment.
Was the OP obligated to proactively disclose his sexual orientation to avoid potential social awkwardness or perceived misdirection during brief, unsolicited flirting, or is the responsibility on the individuals making assumptions about his relationship status? Where does the line lie between professional conduct and personal disclosure in such an informal setting?
