In the quiet corners of an unconventional world, two souls found each other—drawn together by a desire that defies societal norms and expectations. Their love blossomed amidst whispered promises and unspoken fears, a delicate dance between acceptance and transformation, where boundaries are tested and trust becomes the fragile thread holding them close.
Yet beneath the warmth of their connection lurked shadows of uncertainty, as the line between affection and control blurred. The seductive allure of change carried with it the weight of potential loss, and the haunting echo of past stories threatened to unravel the fragile bond they had forged.
WIBTAH if I reached out to her ex? (18+)
As renowned researcher Dr. Brené Brown explains, “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.”
The core issue here revolves around establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries within a relationship defined by a specific fetish. The original poster (OP) explicitly stated his desired limits regarding weight gain, which his girlfriend initially acknowledged. However, her subsequent suggestive comments about reaching the ex-partner’s level of obesity, and the public exchange with her friend—implying she will push past his stated wishes—suggest a fundamental misalignment in how they view consent over time. In fetish dynamics, particularly those involving physical changes like feederism, clear, ongoing, and enthusiastic consent is paramount. The OP’s fear is valid; drastic weight gain can lead to physical dependency, creating a power imbalance where manipulation becomes easier.
Contacting the ex-partner secretly is a high-risk action that likely signals a breakdown in direct communication with the girlfriend. While the OP’s desire for assurance is understandable given the context, seeking information covertly bypasses the necessary conversation with his current partner. A more constructive approach would be to present his girlfriend with the specific examples of boundary violation (the comments, the friend’s statement) and demand a serious, non-joking discussion about mutual respect for agreed-upon limits. If she cannot consistently honor his stated limits, regardless of her own desires within the fetish, the relationship dynamic is inherently unsafe for the OP’s physical autonomy.
REDDIT USERS WERE STUNNED – YOU WON’T BELIEVE SOME OF THESE REACTIONS.
The original poster is caught between his genuine affection for his girlfriend and his growing discomfort with the pressure related to their shared feederism fetish. He feels his stated boundaries regarding his weight gain are being undermined, especially by his girlfriend’s comments and the open nature of the discussion with her friends.
The central question is whether the poster is violating the trust of his current relationship by secretly contacting his girlfriend’s ex-partner to investigate past behavior, or is this a necessary step to confirm the boundaries and consent within his own relationship dynamic?
