My ex and I broke up four months ago — no contact since. Out of the blue, she sent me a pregnancy scan yesterday and said I’m the dad. Naturally, my first question was: how far along is she? Since she sent the scan, I figured she must be a few weeks along.
She said she didn’t know for a while because of irregular periods, but by the time she got the scan, the baby was 13 weeks along.
That’s roughly three months, right? But since we broke up four months ago, the timing doesn’t quite add up. I asked why she didn’t tell me sooner, and she said she was scared — okay, fair enough. But then I pointed out that if the baby is 13 weeks, that’s about a month earlier than our breakup, so I wasn’t fully convinced I was the dad. I told her I needed to find out for sure and wasn’t sure what she wanted from me.
She got defensive, insisted I was the dad, and said pregnancy dating starts a few weeks after intercourse, or something like that. Honestly, I’m no expert, but I know the last time we had sex was the day before we broke up. So I’m confused about how I could be the dad.
I asked if she’d been with anyone else since then, and she admitted to one guy but said they used protection.
I told her I’m firm on wanting a paternity test. Then her mom and sister started messaging me, telling me I’m the dad and to stop being difficult. But I’m not being difficult — I just want clarity because the timing is suspicious.
I also told her I found it strange that she got so upset over me wanting a test, especially since I’m willing to take responsibility once I know the child is mine. I asked her to not contact me until we sort this out.
But now I’m being made to feel like an idiot over timelines and details. She’s 13 weeks pregnant, but we broke up four months ago — about 17 weeks. That just doesn’t make sense to me.
