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EmbarrassedRaccoon34 said:
As the widow of an aoholic, your husband has a problem. I didn’t acknowledge my husband’s aoholism until after he died at age 40. Please seek help for both of you, but understand that ultimately you can only control your own action.
jrallen7 said:
The CDC defines “heavy drinking” as 15 drinks per week for a man. Your husband is well in excess of that if he’s drinking 3–5 every day (that’s 21–35 per week). That level of drinking sustained over a long period of time is almost certain to have health effects, so you’re right to be worried. NTA.
ladyfeyrey said:
My cousin died of liver failure from alcohol abuse at age 44. His daily beverage? Beer. That much beer, that consistently, it is a problem.
SkinnyPig45 said:
NTA. Your husband is an aoholic. From an aoholic. He won’t stop till he wants to.
byrandomchance20 said:
Your husband is absolutely an a**oholic and you are correct to be concerned about having your son in a home around that behavior. I’m so sorry. Whatever comes next won’t be easy. You’re NTA and don’t let him manipulate you into thinking otherwise.
TempylsMyName said:
Uh… NTA… but honestly, your husband IS an a**oholic and you need to get him to realize and get with some program or get your son and yourself outta there.
Lobster-mom said:
NTA, and according to the NIAAA (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and A**oholism), your husband qualifies as a heavy alcohol user on the low end of the drinking spectrum (5 or more drinks a day or 15+ drinks a week for males), and as a binge drinker on the high end (5+ drinks a day for males). His anger and defensiveness can also be a sign of addiction, and I would absolutely suggest getting help for yourself and your child or trying to help him see that he needs it.
khendr352 said:
Your husband is addicted to alcohol and weed. Horrible example for a child. I would leave. This could move him to change, but probably not. You will need to accept that.
waterscorp said:
Find yourself an Al-Anon meeting and go. Your husband has a drinking and substance abuse problem. Just because he’s in denial doesn’t mean he doesn’t have one. You’ll find people in similar circumstances at Al-Anon. Whether you stay or leave is up to you, but you need support to deal with this.
Good luck to you. There is help out there, you just have to find it. A very wise person once told me, “You cannot affect change on anyone but yourself.” This is so true. You can’t force him to admit he has a problem, but you can help yourself and your child. Good luck OP.
