My wife is pregnant with our daughter. At first, we were both really happy and excited. But lately, she’s been acting like a completely different person — angry and irritated over small things, insulting the food I make, and accusing me of losing attraction to her.
For example, last week she wanted chicken sandwiches for dinner. I made them exactly how she asked. She ate all of them, told me they tasted terrible, and left me none. I wasn’t even upset about not getting any — I just don’t get why she’d eat it all if she hated it.
Yesterday, after the gym, a random girl flirted with me and asked me to meet for drinks. I politely declined and said I was married. When I got home, my wife hugged me and apologized. When I asked why, she said she was hungry. But then she admitted it was a “loyalty test” her best friend came up with. They got a mutual friend to flirt with me to see if I’d stay faithful. Apparently, I passed — yay?
I’m really pissed off. I’m exhausted working 80+ hours a week, and I want some peace at home. I’m done with these antics. WIBTA if I asked her to move out?
These are the responses from Reddit users:
Lizlizlizzyliz said: Yikes. Might I suggest some couples therapy first? What she did was clearly an AH move, though I don’t think it’s right to have her move out while she’s pregnant.
[Reddit User] said: NTA. This sub infuriates me sometimes. No, not ESH. I’m curious if anyone would justify this if the genders were reversed. You’re absolutely NTA, and being pregnant doesn’t give her a blank check to act like a psychopath. Your wife shouldn’t get a pass on this. At minimum, you need to separate and go to counseling. Do you want to dodge thirst traps and mind games forever?
ChoMar05 said: NTA. The eating everything and complaining sounds like pregnancy mood swings, and you’d be TA for holding that against her. But the “loyalty” test? That’s a terrible thing to do. Kicking her out seems harsh, especially since she’s pregnant. She probably has self-esteem issues and a terrible best friend. Maybe talk to her and say this stuff isn’t okay.
RidleyAteKirby said: NTA. The “you can’t ask your pregnant wife to move out” argument is BS. Pregnancy doesn’t give anyone license to gaslight or abuse. Asking her to leave should be the bare minimum here.
ArdentCrayon said: If my husband suddenly started acting insane, the first trip would be to a doctor not to a divorce attorney. If this behavior really did start with pregnancy, it would make more sense to seek a medical opinion on how pregnancy is affecting her, and go to counseling.
